I want to be rich, travel the world, start a business, meet interesting people, work on cool projects, run a cozy hostel in the middle of nowhere, start a restaurant, start a hotel, become a film director, become a speaker, run an Airbnb, be an Instagram star, start a Youtube channel, start my own makeup brand, write a book, host a tv show.
‘You regret more the things you didn’t do than the things you did.’
And so you try to do everything before it’s ‘too late’. Your mantra for every opportunity that comes your way is yes, yes, yes.
The more ‘yes-es’ you say, the more ‘yes-es’ you want to say.
With every yes you feel more powerful. Every yes feels like action, feels like progress.
But it is not.
And this is a mistake.
A small yes here and a small yes there leaves no room for more than 30minutes on one thing per day.
Soon you find yourself struggling to keep up with all the ‘yes-es’ you have made.
You slide behind on your promises. You compromise on the quality of each deliverable.
People get upset with you. You become overwhelmed.
Worse, you can’t back out now. You are in too deep.
Better to have said No to most of the opportunities that came your way.
‘That looks interesting but I’ve got my hands tied up with my priorities already so I can’t.’
With every small No, you save up for a Big Yes. One Big Yes to the most meaningful work of your life.
Another Big Yes to spending quality time with the people you love.
What does a Big Yes mean?
It means you are willing to spend at least 5 hours of quality time on it every single week. With only a limited number of working hours every week, you can imagine how few things you can give a Big Yes to.
Image: Think about your small No’s as coins in a piggy bank of a big Yes. The more No’s you say, the faster the piggy bank will fill up.
So here is what you do with FOMO:
Resist it. You really don’t have time to do everything. Pick the most important ones. Because: if you can’t even spend five hours a week on something, it probably isn’t worth starting at all.